Sunday, June 23, 2013

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me'.

Better late than never but I must confess that I was majorly impressed with the Summit!  For a first year event, it blew me away.  It was organized, not overcrowded and ran on time.  The teams were the best of the best!  I am sure next year will be even better.

This competition will always hold a special place in my heart because it will probably be the last competition my daughter will ever compete at as an all-star cheerleader.

It was also very special because another gym needed an athlete to fill in and asked my daughter.  We of course asked for permission of our gym.  We were so grateful they let us help out the other team.  We are so proud that she learned the routine in 2 and a half weeks.  Cheer Florida is an amazing program and they made my daughter feel so welcome. Rob & Katia Goldstein are wonderful parents as well as gym owners.  My daughter got the pleasure to base their daughter Becca who is an all around amazing cheerleader.  Each and every practice these parents supported these kids and made them feel like champions.  The first practice my daughter attended she was greeted with a great big blingy sign welcoming her!  The coaches were amazing as well.  Rachal lead them to a 3rd place win at the Summit. What a great way for my daughter to end her cheer career.

Unfortunately, shortly after returning from the Summit she was working on standing tucks and broke her Left Tibia.  In 2011, she was diagnosed with Monostotic Fibrous Dysplaysia.  She was told she could still do sports but she needed to be careful.  She broke her Left Tibia in March 2012, so after her diagnosis and 2 breaks the doctor has not cleared her to cheer.

So, we do not know where we will go from here. She is in a cast for a couple weeks then an air cast and maybe surgery.  We shall see what the future brings.

Keep Calm and Blog On,

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

“Games give you a chance to excel, and if you're playing in good company you don't even mind if you lose because you had the enjoyment of the company during the course of the game.”

I must confess I am EXHAUSTED!  And it is not over yet.  We still have the Summit this weekend!  Daytona, Worlds and the Summit!  It is total Cheer OVERLOAD!

I have bee trying not to address the Sportsmanship issue but I feel with the season coming to an end that it is time. But, I am referring to all sports not just cheerleading.  I have lots of different friends on facebook and other social media.  The posts I see are just outrageous at times.

Nowadays, it seems as if everyone is hiding behind Social Media.  When I first started doing sports with my children, it was not like this.  People were a lot more careful about what they said because they didn't want conflict.  With Facebook and twitter to hide behind, people seem to say anything they want.  It still comes back to you and it is still a reflection upon the program you are with.  In addition, kids are a reflection of their parents.  If they see that we post that such and such team were sore losers, they are going to feel they can do it too!

I was speaking to a principal from an elementary school and she told me how much she dislikes when parents post pictures of their kids report cards or awards on Social Media.  Some kids try hard and don't get good grades or get honor roll certificates.  I would think owners of cheer programs would feel the same.

My biggest pet peeve of the cheer world is when people come back from a competition and post things like all our teams got 1st when 1 or more of their teams did not even have competition in their division. I feel the most professional and classy way to post on Social Media is to say my child's TEAM put on an amazing performance this weekend.  1st place, 2nd place.....who cares?  Yes, I enjoy winning.  I get caught up in it too! I enjoy it because I see how hard they work and how much they progress.  

I was wondering if any gyms had Social Media policies in relation to their athletes and/or parents.  If a parent or athlete gets on Social Media and bashes another program they should be reprimanded for it.  A lot of gyms have owners who don't even have a Facebook, twitter or instagram account.  Parents bashing other programs on Facebook is just tacky.  Sometimes, things are better left unsaid!

I hate seeing kids in any sport get on Twitter and brag.  I have heard stories from parents all over the country and I have been asked to write a blog about it.  I had suggested it to another blogger and they have not done it so I thought I would.  Parents and Athletes, sometimes it is best to just say nothing at al!  Let Karma take care of it!

I know there are a lot of Varsity haters out there but I must say that Worlds was a huge improvement over last year.  The sessions were run well.  There was a Disney employee counting how many people entered the facility.  There were still a lot of fights over seats but if you went to Security, they helped you find a seat or they asked the person saving the seat to give it up.  They also threatened to confiscate any bag left on a chair and considered it lost.  I don't know if it did or did not happen but they were enforcing the rules.  In addition, they ran almost on or before schedule.  My only suggestion for next year is to keep the third session awards in the Field House.  There was no point in moving everyone over to the tent for awards.  Two snaps up for Varsity!  A huge improvement over last year!

I want to congratulate all the winners and all the participants at Worlds.  I saw some amazing teams that I have never seen before.  I saw some gyms with first year Worlds teams that were amazing.

Good Luck at the Summit everyone and I hope to have a positive blog about how well Varsity does with the Inaugural Summit!

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

People will always have opinions about your decision because they're not courageous enough to take action on their opinion.

I must confess I feel the need to tell some people to just keep their opinions to themselves.  Unless someone asks you for their opinion, don't give it.  Why does everyone have to put in their two cents?

I have heard so many negative statements about cheer programs in the South Florida area and most of these statement were made by people who were never part of those cheer programs to begin with.  Everyone is looking for something different in a cheer program.  Some girls want to win Worlds and some just want to win UCA.  Let people formulate their own opinion.  In addition, cheer programs grow and change and learn from their mistakes.

Some people may say I am a gym hopper but it takes time for all of us to find a place to call home.

What do you look for in a cheer gym? Well, it all depends on who you are and what your cheerleader wants.

1.  Location - If you have other children in other sports you may want to stay close to home.
2. Car Pool - If you decide you want to go to a gym far from home, is there a car pool available?
3. Coaching Style - Some athletes do well with firm coaches and some do better with more easy going coaches.
4. Practice Times - Does it fit in your schedule?  Are they too late?  Can you get out of work and get your chid their on time?
5. Competition Schedule - Do you like to travel? or Do you like more local competitions?
6. Cost - In this economy cost is a factor in everything we do.
7. Fundraising Opportunities - some gyms make it easy for you to raise money for competition fees and some don't.
8. Uniform - Does your child feel comfortable in a crop top uniform?

Let people formulate their own opinion.  You may have had a bad experience with that gym but someone else may love it.  Don't ruin it for someone especially if they are already there.  Personally, I have been in the cheer world so long that it doesn't bother me in anyway so don't even bother.

Friday, February 22, 2013

I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be.

I must confess it has been a while since my last confession.  I really don't have much to confess.  The only thing I can say is that sometimes I think things are going to be the way they were in the past so I expect the worst and panic a little but everything turns out just fine.

Tomorrow, we have a competition in Miami and I am going to see a few Mom's that I haven't gotten in a long with in the past. I found something on another website that I thought I would share that I changed a little based on my experience regarding Cheer Mom Conduct.

Our kids look to us for leadership and guidance and how react they will follow.

Here are a few tips that I am going to use myself:

1. Show respect to all other teams whether you like the parents or not don't punish the kids. Just because you don't like the Mom doesn't mean you have to hold it against the child.  And just because we went to win doesn't mean we have to dislike our competition.  These teams and coaches have worked just as hard as we have to get where they are just like we have.
2. Respect your Coach.  Coaches sometimes make decisions that we don't understand our agree with.  The Coach is doing what is best for the team.  Back them 100%.
3. Always be nice and walk away.  We are confronted many times with coaches and teams that show poor sportsmanship.  The Best reaction is no reaction.  Smile and walk away.
4.  What do we do when our kids lose, we don't like to lose and neither do our kids.  Everyone likes to win but not everyone can.  As long as you know your child or their team did their best remind them they are winners!
5.  Dealing with Gym Drama, I don't know of any so their is nothing to stay out of it but this was something brought up on the site I came across.  Basically, if it doesn't involve your child....STAY OUT OF IT!  If you have an issue talk to the gym owner or coach, not the other parents.  If the gym owner is not receptive and you feel that you need to talk to other parents then this is not a gym you want to be in.  If you are not happy with your gym, there are any more out there especially here in this area.  There is a HOME for everyone.

I have had issues with Mom's in the past, I admit that but I must confess I like every one of your kids.  They are kids and they follow our lead and they are just kids and sometimes they say stuff they don't mean or just don't know how to express themselves yet.

Good Luck this weekend everyone!  I look forward to watching each and everyone of your children compete so I can cheer them on.

Peace, Love & Cheer 

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Yes, I'm Back!

Well, ladies and gentlemen and as Arnold Schwarzenegger says:

 photo arnold21_zps23216a1b.png

I must confess:
 “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” 
― Marilyn Monroe

I think about the above quote often as I was often like that.  We all have our bad moments or we wouldn't be human.  I thought about deleting the past blogs and the nasty comments and drama but I decided to leave it.  I am not going to deny I had some drama.  I am not going to act like nothing ever happened.  I have had time to reflect and I see things very differently now.   I did what I thought was best for my daughter.  I fought for her and made myself look often crazy for her.

After almost a years absence, my daughter is set to hit the blue matt this afternoon.  She is not a flyer, she does not have last pass and I don't even know if she is in front row but what I do know is she is happy.  The team, coaches and owner treat her well.  They were very welcoming when she joined the team and included her right away.  I may be like Marilyn Monroe but my daughter is not.  She is like her Dad.  She internalizes things and she is better at letting things go than I am.

To reflect back:
Year 1: Mini Level 2
Year 2: Mini Level 2
Year 3: Mini Level 2
Year 4: Youth Level 2
Year 5: Senior Level 3
Year 6: Senior Level 3

Today, she is competing as a Youth Level 2 after last season's 4 casts and a concussion.  I am so proud of her.  She hasn't been this happy in a long time.

A lot has changed this past year.  My daughter confessed she never wants to go to Worlds unless it is to watch.  She just wants to have fun.  So, as Nike says "Just Do it!"

I want to say a HUGE thank you to all of you in the industry for your support.

Let's go Flip City All-Stars! Good Luck to all of the team competing today!