Sunday, January 22, 2012

Degree Girl Don't Fret the Sweat iHome Player and Gift Set Giveaway


I must confess I have really been sweating it out this season.  We have had one 2 Day Competition and one Exposition at a local competition and my daughter hasn't hit all of her stunts yet!  Last year she hit at every competition except her first competition (she didn't fall though) and that was the first competition she ever performed at as a flyer so I didn't really let it bother me.

Well, this is her 2nd season flying and I am really sweating it out.  HELP!  How do you overcome these sweat-inducing moments? 

 This is really hard for me to admit since I don't want to admit that I care what anyone thinks or says but it kills me that the kids and the parents are talking about my daughter.  It bothered me to hear them talk about the other flyers in the pre-season.  They say.....this one needs to stretch more or that one needs to do more privates or they need to pull that girl out of the air..... Well, now I am sure they are all saying it about mine.  My heart is breaking for her. I am trying to stay strong for her but it is tough.  They can say whatever they want about me but my child is a different story. 

What is really most frustrating for me is hearing that the girls are saying things to her during that 2:30 they are on the floor.  It is hard enough to get through a routine after you just fell but then for your fellow athletes to add a negative comment is just horrible.  They should be cheering one another on not dragging them down. 

Degree Girl has send me one of the following giveaway sets to keep so we could give them our take on each item in the set.  We love the iPod docking station, it is perfect for practicing to your team routine at home.




So, here is how you win!
 Leave a comment on this post telling me about a situation in cheerleading that tested your nerves, but through determination, courage and encouragement from friends, you made it through! I need some good advice!

Rules:
  • Leave your comments no later than midnight January 31, 2012
  • Make sure your email address is right.  I only use it to contact the winner.  We will NEVER share or publish it.
  • You must be 13 or older to enter. 
  • We will randomly select 1 winner.
 
 Good Luck and I am looking forward to hearing your great advice.

Peace, Love & Cheer,

 

23 comments:

  1. As a mother of a flyer I feel your pain! It is unfortunate that the flyer always gets blamed even if it was not their fault. Sometimes the bases make mistakes also. These girls do not have wings and cannot keep themselves in the air. I have had to step back and take a breath this year and trust that the coaches will do the right thing for the team. It is not easy even if you agree or not with the decisions made. I think I have also had to try and not take it personally. I am trying to remember each competition is a new day on the floor and nothing will be the same as before. Have faith in your child and make sure she knows regardless what others are saying; you have her back and are her biggest fan! These girls are tough and can probably handle more than we give them credit for. Remember, they will be blaming someone else on another day. I don't agree with how mean girls can be but I don't think there is anything you can do to change it. That is something a coach should shut down! Things will gt better!!!!

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  2. I hear people talking all the time about flyers....this that this that....as a mother of 2 basers I tell my girls that it is a TEAM effort too keep a flyer in the air....without the bases there would be no flyer and without the flyer there would be NO STUNT group....negativity is an evil mood killer and should never be allowed let alone on the floor!! I would talk with the coaches and voice your.concerns....I would let them know it is affecting your child's performance and it is not very team like....2nd season or not we have.girls that have.flown for years and still have bad comps, seasons etc....You should also always tell your daughter if she went.out there and.left her heart on the floor then there is nothing left to do....how do these parents know what's happening? I don't see them out.there basing her....a baser not positioning a hand on foot or ankle properly or a baser not backspotting right way ALL plays into a flyer not.hitting aswell...its called a STUNT GROUP for a reason...not a flyer group....I would for sure talk too coach! Hang in there...... <3 Teresa MMAS cheermom1977@gmail.com

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  3. My daughter is a base most of the time but also a flyer in some of the routine. Unfortunately, the flyer is not the only one that gets talked about. I have overheard other moms say "well if the bases did their job, my flyer wouldn't have come down".

    I despise this kind of talk and will be the first to speak up and say No More! It is a team effort, everyone must do their part or it will not work. I believe this includes the parents. Our children overhear things we don't realize, and will spread that negativity to the entire team. Our coaches are awesome and have really stepped up to let parents know what is and is not acceptable! We should be instilling postive feedback to our children to allow them to be successful as individuals and teams. ~Amy ladibugz@charter.net

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  4. Lisa- its almost like being a public figure where people write about you in the tabloids. You can read it, take from it what you will and move on or avoid it. People will always talk. You just have to Instill in her the tools to block out the negativity and as a mom you need to set an example. Do not negatively confront them, do not get into an altercation. She is a terrific kid and you need to give her lots of positive encouragement. If it happens again and you overhear it again, take the person aside and tell them how much hurt they are inflicting and that that kind of talk will not help the team. Then seek out a friendly coach there and there may need to be a team meeting called where these issues are aired and the coaches explain that no good will come out of negativity. You win as a team and you lose as a team. Good luck! Also at another gym when the coach yelled at the flyer my parent friend called the owner and said the owner needed to speak to the coaches. It has to be nipped in the bud. This is a fun sport and pointing fingers makes it ugly. Xxxooo stay strong- be a good role model even though it's hard at times- they are always our babies no matter how old!

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  5. I am a base myself. It isn't all up to the flyer to keep the stunt up and steady. The bases are the support of the girl/guy 12 feet in the air or being thrown 20+ feet in the air doing baskets. If someone is pointing fingers and calling the flyer out for the mistakes, for the fall, the bobble, the wrong counts. That isn't right. It's not a solo effort, it's a team effort. As the coaches always tell us, if you're not going to act as a team, then why be a team and even compete? You can't be blaming the flyer if you're the one under her keeping her in the air. The flyers should never get full blame, it just isn't fair. Coaches are always calling everyone out, not just the flyer. yes there might be some things that the flyer did wrong, but the bases could man up and save the stunt so it doesn't come down. You can get through this and keep your head up high! I know it's hard knowing they're calling the flyer out, just be supportive and try not to choose sides. They are just as strong as you are and can get through anything! --- Sam Rodriguez --- livexlaughx0827@aim.com

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  6. We have all experienced some type of cheer drama at one point in our career as a cheer mom. Either it be a hostile mom trash talking coaches to someone they thought was a stranger(turned out to be coaches mom)Flyer blamed for breaking a bases nose because she was too tired to go up and landed on the bases face ???Yeah that one was weird. We all know not one of the girls goes on that floor or stage wanting a bad outcome.However the girl's need to focus on the 2:30 routine not what went wrong and who's fault it was while they are out there.We all know our daughters work hard for that trophy & banner.Probably more so than they do.Most of the girls are amazing athletes.However not one of them(not even mine)is perfect.Even a snug comment from a teammate can throw a girl off in her routine.My daughter is always a little insecure and tries to follow another girl.Iv'e had a hard time breaking her off that , because a lot of her mistakes came from watching that girl.Long story short!Your daughter works hard and visibly is an incredible athlete,she puts her blood,sweat and tears(not to mention bones)into the sport Neither she nor you should sweat what anyone has to say about her.Talk is cheap and usually the people running their mouths are as well.mpooreone@yahoo.com

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  7. Cheer is just like family.And all families have their own issues they have to work out.Cheer competitions now have lowered the deduction points for tumbling to reduce the amount of stress put on an individual cheerleader.Since tumbling is the only thing in cheer that is individually done, there is no one else to blame... Tumbling has never came easy to me as stunting had. I had to work harder then anyone else just to be at the same level they were at. But with my friends cheering me on by my side i can land everything i want now! <3 I love my cheerleaders, they help me through thick and thin <3 Michaela ,3 spirit14girl@yahoo.com

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  8. All the girls should be encouraging each other. It is not just one person. Talk to the coaches and if it doesn't stop there you need to go to the owners of the gym. No one should be talking about their teammates.

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  9. The only thing I can think to add to all of this is that the parents are the worst offenders. If we as parents would just let our children work it out then it would be all said and done in no time. We sit though practices listening to other parents talk about the kids and yet most parents say nothing to stop this.

    I have been in the viewing area watching practice and listening to parents talk bad about my daughter taking some other flyers spot and that they hoped she fell at the next competition. Being new to the gym mid season was hard enough but listening to adults talk like this about my daughter made me see red.

    I calmly walked over to the group of mothers (no dads in that group) and stated that it was rude and disrespectful to talk about peoples children like that. My understanding was that we were all on the same team so if the flyer falls then that affects the team not just one person. The mother of the flyer whose spot my daughter took, looked up and said "You're just saying that because its your daughter." My answer to her was "No, I am saying that because it is true." My daughter did not take her spot, the coach found it to be a better fit.

    Not long after this rather ugly exchange, practices became closed and parents were not allowed in the viewing area. The funny thing is that when this happened, the kids got along better as well. Without the parent involvement, it seemed like the bickering on the floor stopped and the routine became more solid- no matter who was flying.

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  12. Nice... you can complain and talk crap on your blog, and when someone gives you their honest opinion you delete their comment! the name of your blog should be confessions of insane cheer mom and only comment if you agree with me!!

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  15. Seriously people she has giving away a prize and the rules kind of say you have to give your name. You are the ones that sound crazy not her. It sounds like she just worries about her kid. Did you even have kids that do all-star cheer?? Don't judge someone until you walk in their shoes. She doesn't sound crazy just human.

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  16. Confessions of an insane cheer mom, lol!!! Cheer Moms can drive you insane! I bet you these moms don't even like cheer they do it for their kids!

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