I must confess I really hate facebook but I just couldn't live without it. It has destroyed friendships and family relationships. It causes so much drama and so many people read into it.
When I first started out as a Cheer Mom, Facebook didn't exist or if it did I wasn't on it. I think we have Myspace back then but it was totally different. It was just a way to connect and share pictures. Now, it seems that Facebook is a way of communicating. It is kind of a cope out. Some people say things on Facebook that they are afraid to say to peoples faces.
I have heard from a lot of cheer moms this past month about how they have changed gyms and what has followed. One Mom has had to endure nasty text messages to her children. Facebook Statuses aimed at them. But there is always the.....oh I wasn't talking about you. How do you get it to stop? Should the gym owners be doing something about it? Should they just stay out of it? It seems like there is so much more drama than their needs to be. I feel like some people are on my facebook just to see what I am doing when we aren't even friends. People get upset about being deleted. I would rather be deleted than stalked?! What do you think? Gym Owners and Coaches have so much on their plates these days should they really get involved in this stuff. Come on, It's just Cheerleading? Right?
Is your cheer gym your whole world? Does your life and your athlete's life revolve around the gym? Or do you have other friends outside the gym? A wise person once told me that I should make sure my kids make friends with people outside of cheerleading that have other interests. She said it is a lot less drama. I think she is right. This summer, we are doing photography, golf and tennis.
Is there such thing as too much team bonding?? My daughter is 10 and on a senior team. Most of the senior girls don't want to "bond" with the younger girls. I totally get it but I would love to hear how it is in other gyms. Some parents don't want their 10 year old bonding with the older girls and I get that too.
Before you act on Facebook and post that status you are dying to post.....think about it a while. You never want to burn a bridge in the Cheer World. You never know, you might both end up in the same gym next season. Ya never know?! So, let's all play nicely on the cheer playground.
Peacxe, Love & Cheer,