Tuesday, June 21, 2011

To bring up a child in the way he should go travel that way yourself once in a while.

I must confess that I think parents are just gettin outta hand these days and not just us Cheer Moms.  Check out this article from the Today Show.   Poor kid, Poor Coach....  


How do you know you need a Parental Intervention???  Is there a 12 Step Program for this??  Is there a program for everything?

Here is a good one that I am going to use myself:

Before you nag, criticize, praise or over-explain, remember the slogan W.A.I.T.: “why am I talking?”

I must confess that today myself I could have used this.......my daughter is pretty close to a skill and just won't throw it.  I keep nagging and criticizing.  Maybe I need to post this as the home screen on my Iphone?!   LOL!

For more see this article:

Here is the issue that is bugging me the most......All-Star v. School Cheerleading.  As some of you know I live in South Florida and there is some major debate going on regarding the Park Vista Cheerleading squad.  I predict this will be on the today show before school start in August.


Should the school cheerleading squad be representative of the school?  If there are a certain amount of spots should 21% go to kids with the last names that end in EZ (like my kid) and 11% go to students who are black.  Most of us were all born here in the US and are AMERICANS!  It should go to the kids with the best skills for the team.  Now, comes the All-Star debate.  It seems that the team is represented almost entirely by girls who are or have been All-Star Cheerleaders.  So, then comes the new debate......MONEY!  These kids could afford private lessons when the other kids could not.  No matter how you look at it, there is going to be a debate.  From what I have read on facebook, certain states have rules that disallow girls from competing on school teams and all-star teams.  It seems like here in Florida, every coach has his/her own set of rules.  Some won't pick you if you do all-star cheer because there are too many conflicts with scheduling.  Some all-star squads practice at all-star gyms and girls claim they were not selected because they are from the rival all-star gym.  In some states like Michigan, where all-star cheerleading isn't has hardcore as it is in the South, they like girls who do all-stars because of their skills.  Well, the coaches do but the other girls resent it.

My daughter whose last name ends in EZ (lol), wants nothing to do with High School cheer.  She thinks shaking your pom-pom's is different than what she does.  This is exactly how she says but she's 10.  She considers All-Star cheerleading a sport and people should be cheering her on!

In the end, my advice is Let the kids play, don't steal their childhood.  10 or 20 years from now, I don't want to hear why was I always at cheerleading or baseball.  So, our next stop this summer on the rotation of extracurricular activities is golf!  You get too serious about Cheer or any other sport, you are just going to embarass yourself and end up the subject of the next lifetime movie.

Peace, Love & Cheer,

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

I must confess I really hate facebook but I just couldn't live without it.  It has destroyed friendships and family relationships. It causes so much drama and so many people read into it.

When I first started out as a Cheer Mom, Facebook didn't exist or if it did I wasn't on it.  I think we have Myspace back then but it was totally different.  It was just a way to connect and share pictures.  Now, it seems that Facebook is a way of communicating.  It is kind of a cope out.  Some people say things on Facebook that they are afraid to say to peoples faces.

I have heard from a lot of cheer moms this past month about how they have changed gyms and what has followed.  One Mom has had to endure nasty text messages to her children.  Facebook Statuses aimed at them.  But there is always the.....oh I wasn't talking about you.   How do you get it to stop?  Should the gym owners be doing something about it?  Should they just stay out of it?  It seems like there is so much more drama than their needs to be.  I feel like some people are on my facebook just to see what I am doing when we aren't even friends.  People get upset about being deleted. I would rather be deleted than stalked?!  What do you think?   Gym Owners and Coaches have so much on their plates these days should they really get involved in this stuff.  Come on, It's just Cheerleading? Right?

Is your cheer gym your whole world?  Does your life and your athlete's life revolve around the gym?  Or do you have other friends outside the gym?   A wise person once told me that I should make sure my kids make friends with people outside of cheerleading that have other interests.  She said it is a lot less drama.  I think she is right.  This summer, we are doing photography, golf and tennis.

Is there such thing as too much team bonding??  My daughter is 10 and on a senior team.  Most of the senior girls don't want to "bond" with the younger girls.   I totally get it but I would love to hear how it is in other gyms.  Some parents don't want their 10 year old bonding with the older girls and I get that too. 

Before you act on Facebook and post that status you are dying to post.....think about it a while.  You never want to burn a bridge in the Cheer World.  You never know, you might both end up in the same gym next season.  Ya never know?!  So, let's all play nicely on the cheer playground. 

Peacxe, Love & Cheer,

Friday, June 17, 2011

I am too positive to be doubtful. Too optimistic to be fearful. And too determined to be defeated.

 I must confess that I feel like it is almost competition season based on some off what I hear.......If people are this intense now what is it going to be like in December or January.

At this point, so much can change.  As most of you know, I am on my 3rd gym and I am going to my 6th year of All-Star Cheer. So, I pretty much know someone at every gym in the area.  Just curious to know if your gyms do re-evaluations at the end of the summer.  Is this the reason for this intensity??  In this area, a lot of kids go away to sleep away camp for the summer or to see their grandparents in another state.  So, no team has full team practices.  Bases and back spots will change and new flyers may arrive.  Girls who decided not to cheer in May are now regretting their decisions and deciding to come back.

As an All-Star Cheer Mom, I must take a step back at some point and let my cheerleader have some say in her destiny as a cheerleader.  At what age or level of maturity do we do this?  My daughter is on a Senior 3 team.  I think it's time??!!  I don't push her to do privates.  I let her tell me when she wants to do them.  This summer I am introducing them to other activities.  Photography, golf, surfing, etc....  I don't want her to look back some day and say Mom why didn't I try this or that. 

I also must confess that it drives me crazy when I find some cute cheer wear for me or my daughter that I can customize and then discover I have to order a minimum of 20!  UGH!  Well, I finally found the perfect place to order from.   Check Out Customized Girl.  It is so easy to use and it has so many different options and styles to choose from.   It was so easy to design and it walked me through all the steps.  I have not received my order yet but I am so excited that I had to share it with all of you!


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Peace, Love & Cheer,


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