Tuesday, May 17, 2011

A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent. ~ William Blake

I must confess that I am totally shocked by the cheer world today.  There are approximately 60 kids without a cheer home today.  They say everything happens for a reason and it wasn't really a home to begin with then.  BUT that doesn't make it right.  Everything is rumor and hearsay right now but the truth is that this person pursued athletes in this area aggressively.  This person was messing with others livelihoods.  You don't go and open a cheer gym in another gym's backyard then facebook all their athletes.  Luckily, most of these kids have parents who intervened on their facebooks and blocked this person or drilled into their heads that is was inappropriate for this adult, a stranger to talk to them on facebook.  Did this person care about the kids?! NO!  It was all about money.  60 kids is a great start for a new gym with so many gyms in the surrounding area. 

I am heading into my 7th year in the cheer world as an All-Star Cheer Mom.  Here is my advice to all of you:
1.  Never ever burn a bridge.  I am sure I have burned a few but I am honest and true so in my mind I just tell it like it is.
2.  There is no such thing as a secret in cheerleading.  We all will find out the true story eventually.
3.  Never ever pay tuition up front at a first year cheer gym!
4.  Monitor your child;s facebook daily or twice a day.  Yes, I think it is ok for them to have facebook.  Why? because you can track what they say better than on an instant messenger.
5.  Formspring, just say NO!  Anonymous comments, nothing good ever comes out of that.
6.  You or your child are not entitled to anything, they have to earn it.  It doesn't matter how many years and how the stars are aligned that day but until your athlete earns it they do not deserve a spot. 
7.  Don't ever tell the coaches what team you want your kid on, you might get what you wish for.  They are impartial and they know your kids skills better.  We are their biggest fan but we may not know what is best for them. 
8.  Did I say there is no such thing is a secret?? I don't care if you say don't repeat it....someone will.
9.  Before choosing to leave a cheer gym, ask your child what they want.  They just might have the answer you have been looking for.

So, it looks like tryouts are over here in South Florida.  Top Gun gets their placements tonite.  What a crazy year?!  Kids trying out at 4 and 5 gyms.  I have seen Mom's spend less on college applications then cheer tryout fees.  I have seen parents power playing by taking their kids to another gym to get what they want at their current gym.  And guess what?  Most of them get it.  I had the most drama free year I have had in years, the parents at my daughter's gym seem happy.  The first week of practice for the teams seemed to be amazing.  The 2 teams I saw looked SICK!!!!  No one was calling me saying, I can't believe so and so made that team or that team.  Well, at least not about my daughter's gym.  I heard it about some of the others. It seems to be the most drama filled tryout season as far as the area goes but the drama was the lowest for me.  Why?  It is all who you choose to associate yourself with.  Your create your own destiny especially as a cheer mom. 

Every year, they post the Top 10 Party Schools in Playboy Magazine, I think they need to post in American Cheerleader Magazine Top 10 Drama Free All-Star Gyms!  Can we find 10?  There will always be some drama but it is all in how it is handled.  How does your gym handle drama?  Does that parent get a talking to?  Does that parent even care? 

Wow, I feel better.  I needed to get it all out.  I just can't imagine what those kids and their parents feel like today.  All the other gyms have had their tryouts.  I hope their are gyms that will accept them with open arms and turn this around for them.

Peace, Love & Cheer!

Monday, May 16, 2011

"Things turn out the best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out." -Art Linkletter

If you as a parent are too involved in your  child's sport, it can make your life and your child miserable, kill your enjoymen, their enjoyment and absolutely ruin their athletic performance. Pushy parents can cause choking and other performance problems, and turn your child into a sports dropout statistic. While many over-involved parents mean well and may say that they are doing all this for their kid, the fact of the matter is that they have lost perspective on the sport and their child and are responding to their own needs and feelings. They need parents’ love and support to become successful, it will be almost impossible for them to reach their athletic dreams with parents who are over-involved. A parent’s major role on the “team”, (parent, athlete, coach) is to be unconditionally supportive. That is, to love and support their child regardless of how they perform. Winning parents are their kids “best fans.” They are there for their child no matter what the outcome. 

I must confess I have reached my limit of baseball Dad's.  I will take Cheer Mom's over baseball Dad's any day.   This poor kid is an amazing baseball player and I stood in the dugout and listened to him yell at his kid the whole game.  Every time his son went to bat, he was too busy looking at his Dad and not listening to the coach who happens to be my husband.  What happens, he strikes out every time.  What do they parents do this??   

Now back to cheer,

I must confess sometimes I fall into that trap and I become that parent who is borderline pushing possibly encouraging their kid to get that next skill.   I am not like that with my son in baseball but with my daughter in cheerleading I am.  When 4 coaches say she has a skill and she won't throw it, it is just so frustrating for me.  

It is a new season and I am so excited.  The first practice the kids looked amazing and better than they did half way through last season.

What is up with these cheer mom's and their power playing?  It obviously works because they go check out other gyms and then the gym they were at gives them what they want and they go back.   Does the gym need the revenue or the kid?  A new gym has opened in our area and there seems to be a lot of power playing going on.  The coaches at the gym are amazing and I am sure it will be a successful program but I just hate the games.  

Anyhow,  I am busy with the bows so back to work.  www.justcheerbows.com  New boys and lots on sale!

Peace, Love & Cheer,