Thursday, December 22, 2011

A slip of the foot you may soon recover, but a slip of the tongue youmay never get over.

I must confess it has been a while since my last confession....I mean blog.

A lot of people do not realize the impact of their words. Some of you have already started competing but our gym has not. With competition right around the corner, think before you speak to the total stranger next to you at a competition.

It may be difficult at times but try and be positive. If you don't have a positive attitude, don't expect your child to either. They sense what you are feeling and it reflects in their performance.

As a former Coach (not cheer) and the wife of a baseball coach, there is no one person to blame. Think before you blame that flyer who fell in a stunt. And think before you speak and think of who you are speaking to.

I talk to cheer mom's everyday and I have some stories that can make your head spin. Nowadays every phone has a video camera, you may be sitting thee bashing a coach, athlete or another parent and it can all be caught on camera and emailed to your coaches! You could be sitting at a competition venting about how disappointed you are and it could be someone's grandma!

I hope you all had a cheerful Christmas and good luck in 2012!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

But doesn't everyone want to be a cheerleader?

I must confess that for as long as I can remember, there was always someone I knew who wanted to be a cheerleader or wanted their child to be a cheerleader.

I live in South Florida and cheerleading is a BIG deal here.  I hear all the time that there are areas that cheerleading is no big deal but I never really believed it.  Well, in Michigan at La Salle High School there was no one interested in trying out for cheerleading.  Really???  No WAY!

Well, the Mom's took the matter into their own hands.  Of course, that is what Cheer Mom's do, right?  How could their sons not have anyone to cheer for them.

Check Them out? What do you think?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/21/moms-become-cheerleaders-high-school-football_n_1106273.html

My daughter would absolutely die of embarrassment and so would my son.

There were no cheerleaders at last years Super Bowl.  Do you think there will be this year?  Do you think they are just eye candy?  I say we put a real All-Star Squad out there at Half-time!
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/01/25/super-bowl-xlv-no-cheerleaders_n_813716.html


Will there be cheerleaders at this years Super bowl??  Do you think it matters?

Hope you all had a great Holiday,

Lisa








Wednesday, November 2, 2011

I always turn to the sports section first. The sports page records people's accomplishments; the front page has nothing but man's failures.

I must confess that I am pretty happy right now.  Yeah, confessions aren't normally about good things but they should be!  I am really happy with my blog, my business and my family.  And some of the decisions I have made.

I decided to take a step back and let my 10 year old daughter who is on a Senior 3 just work at her own pace.  I never pushed her in the past and suddenly this summer I caught myself pushing her to get her standing tuck.  She was getting frustrated and it was just a feeling I had never experienced before.  We went on vacation and I talked to some friends and it just hit me to lay off.  I did and it seems like she is progressing and is so much happier.  In my research, I came across the following link with a questionnaire for kids about their parents.  Check it Out!
http://www.competitivedge.com/questionnaire_athletes2.htm

There are lots of blogs popping up out there and I think mine is quite unique compared to most.  My daughter isn't the best in the World nor has she been to Worlds even to watch.  I am your average everyday "Cheer Mom" and I also tell it like it is and as they say "Don't sugar Coat it."  I don't have every kid in my house cheering not that there is anything wrong with that.  I will confess I had my son cheer one cheer and he hated it.  He just liked going to the competitions and feeling liking he was part of it rather than being forced to watch it.

I have been told in a comment from anonymous that I am living through my daughter.  Well, that is just ridiculous.  I am not what people consider the typical "cheer mom" from those stereotypes.  I did not want to be a cheerleader in high school.  I like watching my daughter do what she loves.  The days she says I want to quit, we are done.  If we are in the middle of the year, of course I will have her finish the season.

As I have said in other blog posts, I am trying to introduce my kids to other sports.  Well, we discovered why gymnastics or cheer works for her.  My daughter has allergies and asthma and outdoor sports just induce asthma attacks.  She has only ever had 1 at cheer in over 5 years.  We did find a love for photography.  I am so excited because I love it also.

So back to the stereotypes......before I had kids I saw these lifetime movies about cheerleaders.  Never were they about all-star cheerleaders though.  I think there is a HUGE difference.  It is not about popularity in All-Stars.  Nowadays though, school cheer and All-Star cheer are crossing paths.  At a High School here in Florida, there has been quite a bit of controversy over 8 black girls making the cheer squad.  The girls that did make the Varsity squad were all All-Star or former all star cheerleaders. 

http://www.palmbeachpost.com/news/schools/superintendent-no-evidence-of-bias-in-park-vista-1608529.html














Saturday, October 29, 2011

Evil thoughts intrude in an unemployed mind, as naturally as worms are generated in a stagnant pool.

This blog has been coming on for a long time.  It is kind of a rant but with competition season starting for a lot of us or having already started, it is a must.

Before you make an observation of another parent in your program whether it be cheer or another sport, you need to remember a few things.
1.  There is no such thing as a secret especially when you put it on the internet or in an email or text message.
2.  There is no such thing as a secret especially in cheerleading.
3.  If you have enough time to discuss others personal lives with others in your program you may have time for at least a part-time job.
4.  Think about how much time you will spend traveling with these people in the next 5 months.

Here are some of the most common observations I hear.
1.  That Mom is a drunk, she drinks too much at competitions.  My response, if I had to spend it with you I would drink that much!  They should have an AA Booth at competitions.
2.  That Mom takes a lot of pills.  My response, maybe she has good reason to take them.  I would take Xanax also if I had to spend that much time with you!
3.  That Mom is having an affair with one of the Dad's.  I must confessed this one was about me.  Was I having an affair with that Dad? NO!  Why did this rumor start because I would rather hang out with the Dad than some of these crazy cheer moms?!  Would I have an affair with this man? HECK NO!  Why?  His wife was a crazy cheer mom?!  Actually she wasn't because if she was she would have come to competitions.  I just thought that sounded good.
4.  That Mom drinks in the parking lot and drives home with other kids in the car.  I have no excuse for this one.
5.  That Mom is having Marital problems. DON'T TOUCH THIS ONE PEOPLE! Don't mess with others marriages.  Everyone has problems.

Some people are better at keeping their problems to themselves.  I am not one of those.  IT IS WRITTEN ALL OVER MY FACE!  It is not always about cheer!  I may be upset about my child's messy room or bad grades or failure to hand in homework assignments.

I must confess last night I was a Crazy Cheer Mom!  Sometimes, I feel like the coaches think we are so we might as well be!  So, I would hear a parent say, I wish my daughter would get off the tumble track and work on the floor and I said "Ok, I will go Crazy Cheer Mom on her for ya!"

Mom's think before you speak and look at the person you are speaking to.  I have been to 3 Cheer gyms in 6 years.  Some of the stories go back a few years.  You might have just met that Mom.  She may seem like the nicest sweetest most innocent Mom but when she gets in her car she may call everyone on the team and repeat what you said.  The telephone game is a nasty nasty game. By the time it gets back tot he person it was said about, it will sound a lot worse than it really was.

Don't say anything you wouldn't say to a person's face.  Also, it isn't all about cheer!!!!!

If you have time to speak on the phone about cheer for at least 2 hours a day, it is time for a part-time job.  I started a bow business!  I am happier than ever.



Saturday, October 22, 2011

“Insecurity will always rent the space it occupies, but confidence will own the building, and any other room it steps in.”

I must confess, It has been a long time since my last blog.  Yes, I am catholic and I have that catholic guilt.

There has been so much happening and I really should have been blogging but I was just too sad to blog.

I most confess and this is a big one.  I complain about Competitive Cheer and all that goes along with it but when I thought that it would all be taken away from my daughter who loves it so much I realized how much I would miss it.  It has been apart of our lives for over half of her life.

About 7 or 8 weeks ago, my daughter came home from practice and said her wrist hurt bad and she had to sit out.  She sat out during stunting which she would never do and was on the verge of tears I was told.  So, the next morning I immediately caller her orthopedist.  Since she wasn't in horrible pain, they told me the next appointment was in 3 weeks.  We go to "THE" orthopedist so it is tough to get an appointment.  My daughter has quite a history so we go to the best.  We have been seeing her since she was 3.

Let's go back over a decade, My daughter was born October of 2000.  I was told by 3 doctors I would never conceive so she was a total miracle.  I had a very good pregnancy with only 1 complication of falling down the stairs at my baby shower and landing on my bottom and breaking my tail bone.  Call it Klutzy.  She was born 10 days late and did not cry and was purple.  She was not breathing on her own and her lungs were filled with fluid.  She was rushed to another hospital with higher level NICU about 45 mins away.  She weighed 9 lbs 10 oz.  I thought big babies were healthy babies!

She was in the NICU for 5 long days.  I was released from the hospital I was in after 2 days and I spent every minute I could with her.  We were so happy to bring her home.  5 days later she came down with a high fever and we went to the ER and were admitted.  The fever mysteriosly went away after 2 days and we were sent home.  Over the next week, she slowly stopped using her left arm and it was like it was paralyzed.  I was sent to so many doctors all over.  I was sent for x'rays.  Finally, we were admitted back in the hospital and she was diagnosed with osteomyelitis.  This is a bone infection and it was found in the left arm above her elbow.  We spent weeks there and they blew every vein and eventually she got a central line put in her leg.  She received continuous antibiotics through a pump.   They did more x-rays and we were told it had gotten worse and we were told they could not help her anymore, she was getting worse and we needed to go to another hospital in Miami or Orlando.  We choose Miami and she was released and we drove straight to Miami with all of our films, etc....   We get to Miami and we wait amongst the craziness and standing room only at Miami Children's Hospital to see an amazing doctor.  He told us that what they saw was it getting better and not worse.  WHEW!  We were sent home again and had a nurse come in the morning and a nurse at night who rarely showed up.  I learned how to change the antibiotic cartridges and flush her line.  We continued to go to Miami until she was 2 years old and then we were able to see our local doctor.

For the next 6 years, every time she had pain in that arm or something orthopedic, I panicked.  I knew in my heart that our bone issues were not over.  She started gymnastics at age 3 and loved it.  She would fall off the beam, I would take her to the dr.  Her arm would hurt from working on her bar routine too hard, I would take her to the dr.  At age 5, she started cheer.  Every pain, I took her to the dr.  Never anything more than 1 muscle strain from that one time working on her bar routine.  So, when she got a bump on her leg the summer of 2010, I didn't think much of it.  I thought she is a kid, it will go away.  Well, it never did.

Now, back to the present.  We go to the appointment we waited three weeks for, they take an x-ray of her wrist and I mention the bump on her leg that never totally went away. I thought it had but it was still there and my daughter pointed it out.  My doctor is "THE" doctor, right?  So, when she called in a resident to look at her leg, I freaked.  He didn't have a good look on his face.  She knew everything, right??  So, they come back with the x-rays and the wrist was broken.  It had been for 3 weeks!  It had been healing so they put a cast on it that was removable.  BIG mistake.  She was sneaking behind my back and taking it off and tumbling until 3 parents and one of her friends told me.  So, one piece of advice from this experience always go with the permanent cast.  So, then they tell me about the leg.  They tell me she has a cyst on her bone.  OMG!  They didn't know what it was.  It could be cancer or it could be the reaction to an old break.  She never broke it.  So, we were told we needed an MRI but needed to wait for approval from insurance.  I went home and cried.  It all came back.  Next morning I call to see if they got approval.  Next appointment we could get was 5:15 but we were told we couldn't do it there they needed a more intensive MRI.  What?? Why??  I go for the MRI and then she insists on not missing cheer. An hour MRI was almost 2 hours.  She even needed an IV.  The MRI tech kept shaking and rubbing his head.  OMG!  We get out and go to cheer.  She does what she loves, right?  So, I go with it and explain it to the head coach and owner.  Next day, I call the dr office to make an appt for the reading of the MRI.  Can't get an appt for 2 weeks?!  WHAT?!  My kid may have cancer, are you crazy?  So, I make the appt and don't make a stink.  I just didn't have the energy.  They call me at noon and say can you get here by 1:20.  I race to the school and get her and bring her to the office.  They tell me she has a rare bone disease called fibrous displaysia.  They don't know much about it but they are not positive and refer me to someone in MIAMI!  An Oncologist! Miami again? Oh no!  Oncologist, Cancer?! We couldn't get an appt until 10/17.  So, we wait.  I google.  Another piece of advice, never google your kids diagnosis.  You will read horrible things.  I was prepared for the worst.  It's not cancer.  The bone around the fibrous displaysia (basically a hole in her bone) is very strong which explains the bump.  It is strong because she is an active child.  A CHEERLEADER!  Something good comes out of it.  Her left arm was so strong because she was a Cheerleader!  An All-Star Cheerleader!  So, good news is as the doctor said "You can continue your cheerleading career."  My daughter did most of the talking. Can you tell?  Career?  What is she talking about?  That is a kid with a dream.

So, I feel so much better getting that all out!  She doesn't have to go back for 6 months!  The only way she will need surgery is if her bone starts to bow.  Then she will need, bone grafting, plates & screws.  They don't think that will happen though!  YEAH!

Now, she is back in the gym and working that standing tuck.  She missed her coach so much.  Just now just needs the confidence and she will land that standing tuck.

So, if you read all those negative articles that say cheerleading is so dangerous, think again.  They aren't talking about All-Star Cheer.  They tumble on mats with certified coaches.  All of her coaches were once All-Star Cheerleaders.  High School Cheer, who is your coach?  The math teacher look for some extra cash?

I am looking forward to an amazing season with a team that has expanded and added some amazing athletes. 





Wednesday, August 17, 2011

“When a team outgrows individual performance and learns team confidence, excellence becomes a reality.”









I must confess I just don't get some people maybe it is the accountant in me but if you are spending money on something you are going to use it.  It frustrates me to no end to hear from parents how they have a teammate that consistently doesn't show up.   My son plays baseball and it is pretty inexpensive so I can understand missing some practices but with what we pay for competitive cheer I just don't get it. 

In other sports such as baseball or basketball, there is no routine and it doesn't mess up the dynamic as much as it does when someone is missing on a cheer squad.  If one member of the pyramid is missing, it all tumbles to the ground.   I am known as the krazy koupon lady.  I am always tried to get the best bang for my buck but regardless my daughter never wants to miss a practice.  Even if I wanted to stay home, she wants to go.  We are on year 6 and she still makes every practice as long as she is in town.   I heard from one parent how these girls say they are away and they see picture of the girls on facebook at someplace local or statuses that say on the phone with so and so.  Social Media is a dangerous thing.

I am not going to star my rant about how I hate social media but if you don't want someone to know where you are or what you are doing don't post it on facebook on tumblr or google + or twitter.  Show some restraint, please for the sake of your teammates.  This seems to be the biggest complaint I hear from people.  I personally don't notice it in relation to my gym because I have so many people on my account from all over the world but when I talk to parents from all over, they seem to complain about social media the most.  The other one is seeing the underage drinking.  Does your gym have a policy about social media?  I don't know if ours does to be honest but I have heard that others do.  My daughter is very young and I have been criticized for her having a facebook account but to be honest, I check it all day.  I have deleted people and I have taken some out of her feed.  As our young athletes advance in cheer they end up with older girls and they end up adding them on facebook.  Then to see these girls they look up to with alcohol in their hands at age 16 is disheartening.  I am not going to say I didn't do it but there was no social media back then.  The reason I let her have an account is because I want to see her chats.  She was chatting on Instant Messengers and the messages disappear on facebook they are saved.  I know who she is talking to and this is where she shares her pictures.

Anyhow, for those of you who have already gone back to school, enjoy!  For those that start next week like us, good luck on your first day!




Monday, July 4, 2011

Imitation is the sincerest of flattery.

Wow!  I must confess that I am speechless.  The world has gotten so competitive. 

Due to Facebook Rules:
http://www.facebook.com/promotions_guidelines.php

I will not longer be doing promotions or giveaways on my facebook page.
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Just-Cheer-Bows/165434296813188

When I hit 7,300 Fans on Facebook, the first 5 comments on this blog will get a Red 3 Inch Bow. 

Ok, I am not so speechless anymore.  At first, I was a little hurt to see people I know ordering bows from others but after thinking on it, there is plenty of business for everyone.  I have seen bow makers on facebook comment on stealing of designs.  It is crazy.  I just had a fellow bow maker refer me to a shop that was looking to stock bows in their store.  That is a huge compliment.  I have had a bow maker block me from commenting on their page on facebook.  I have no idea how to do that and I would never write anything negative on their page.  I have had one bow maker block me from seeing their page which is so silly because they have a website and I have friends and family who have facebook accounts and I can easily look at their page there if I want to.  A lot of times, I have someone send me a picture and say "can you make this bow?"  It done not say on it where it came from.  So, if you do not want your designs stolen then put a watermark on it. 


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Peace, Love & Cheer,

Lisa












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Tuesday, June 21, 2011

To bring up a child in the way he should go travel that way yourself once in a while.

I must confess that I think parents are just gettin outta hand these days and not just us Cheer Moms.  Check out this article from the Today Show.   Poor kid, Poor Coach....  

http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/06/20/6903091-mom-accused-of-stalking-little-league-coach-who-cut-son

How do you know you need a Parental Intervention???  Is there a 12 Step Program for this??  Is there a program for everything?


Here is a good one that I am going to use myself:

Before you nag, criticize, praise or over-explain, remember the slogan W.A.I.T.: “why am I talking?”

I must confess that today myself I could have used this.......my daughter is pretty close to a skill and just won't throw it.  I keep nagging and criticizing.  Maybe I need to post this as the home screen on my Iphone?!   LOL!

For more see this article:
http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/06/20/6894996-intervention-time-do-you-need-parents-anonymous

Here is the issue that is bugging me the most......All-Star v. School Cheerleading.  As some of you know I live in South Florida and there is some major debate going on regarding the Park Vista Cheerleading squad.  I predict this will be on the today show before school start in August.


http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/2011-06-17/news/fl-cheerleaders-racism-claims-20110616_1_racism-allegations-school-officials-promise-school-board

Should the school cheerleading squad be representative of the school?  If there are a certain amount of spots should 21% go to kids with the last names that end in EZ (like my kid) and 11% go to students who are black.  Most of us were all born here in the US and are AMERICANS!  It should go to the kids with the best skills for the team.  Now, comes the All-Star debate.  It seems that the team is represented almost entirely by girls who are or have been All-Star Cheerleaders.  So, then comes the new debate......MONEY!  These kids could afford private lessons when the other kids could not.  No matter how you look at it, there is going to be a debate.  From what I have read on facebook, certain states have rules that disallow girls from competing on school teams and all-star teams.  It seems like here in Florida, every coach has his/her own set of rules.  Some won't pick you if you do all-star cheer because there are too many conflicts with scheduling.  Some all-star squads practice at all-star gyms and girls claim they were not selected because they are from the rival all-star gym.  In some states like Michigan, where all-star cheerleading isn't has hardcore as it is in the South, they like girls who do all-stars because of their skills.  Well, the coaches do but the other girls resent it.

My daughter whose last name ends in EZ (lol), wants nothing to do with High School cheer.  She thinks shaking your pom-pom's is different than what she does.  This is exactly how she says but she's 10.  She considers All-Star cheerleading a sport and people should be cheering her on!

In the end, my advice is Let the kids play, don't steal their childhood.  10 or 20 years from now, I don't want to hear why was I always at cheerleading or baseball.  So, our next stop this summer on the rotation of extracurricular activities is golf!  You get too serious about Cheer or any other sport, you are just going to embarass yourself and end up the subject of the next lifetime movie.

Peace, Love & Cheer,




























Saturday, June 18, 2011

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

I must confess I really hate facebook but I just couldn't live without it.  It has destroyed friendships and family relationships. It causes so much drama and so many people read into it.

When I first started out as a Cheer Mom, Facebook didn't exist or if it did I wasn't on it.  I think we have Myspace back then but it was totally different.  It was just a way to connect and share pictures.  Now, it seems that Facebook is a way of communicating.  It is kind of a cope out.  Some people say things on Facebook that they are afraid to say to peoples faces.

I have heard from a lot of cheer moms this past month about how they have changed gyms and what has followed.  One Mom has had to endure nasty text messages to her children.  Facebook Statuses aimed at them.  But there is always the.....oh I wasn't talking about you.   How do you get it to stop?  Should the gym owners be doing something about it?  Should they just stay out of it?  It seems like there is so much more drama than their needs to be.  I feel like some people are on my facebook just to see what I am doing when we aren't even friends.  People get upset about being deleted. I would rather be deleted than stalked?!  What do you think?   Gym Owners and Coaches have so much on their plates these days should they really get involved in this stuff.  Come on, It's just Cheerleading? Right?

Is your cheer gym your whole world?  Does your life and your athlete's life revolve around the gym?  Or do you have other friends outside the gym?   A wise person once told me that I should make sure my kids make friends with people outside of cheerleading that have other interests.  She said it is a lot less drama.  I think she is right.  This summer, we are doing photography, golf and tennis.

Is there such thing as too much team bonding??  My daughter is 10 and on a senior team.  Most of the senior girls don't want to "bond" with the younger girls.   I totally get it but I would love to hear how it is in other gyms.  Some parents don't want their 10 year old bonding with the older girls and I get that too. 

Before you act on Facebook and post that status you are dying to post.....think about it a while.  You never want to burn a bridge in the Cheer World.  You never know, you might both end up in the same gym next season.  Ya never know?!  So, let's all play nicely on the cheer playground. 

Peacxe, Love & Cheer,


Friday, June 17, 2011

I am too positive to be doubtful. Too optimistic to be fearful. And too determined to be defeated.

 I must confess that I feel like it is almost competition season based on some off what I hear.......If people are this intense now what is it going to be like in December or January.

At this point, so much can change.  As most of you know, I am on my 3rd gym and I am going to my 6th year of All-Star Cheer. So, I pretty much know someone at every gym in the area.  Just curious to know if your gyms do re-evaluations at the end of the summer.  Is this the reason for this intensity??  In this area, a lot of kids go away to sleep away camp for the summer or to see their grandparents in another state.  So, no team has full team practices.  Bases and back spots will change and new flyers may arrive.  Girls who decided not to cheer in May are now regretting their decisions and deciding to come back.

As an All-Star Cheer Mom, I must take a step back at some point and let my cheerleader have some say in her destiny as a cheerleader.  At what age or level of maturity do we do this?  My daughter is on a Senior 3 team.  I think it's time??!!  I don't push her to do privates.  I let her tell me when she wants to do them.  This summer I am introducing them to other activities.  Photography, golf, surfing, etc....  I don't want her to look back some day and say Mom why didn't I try this or that. 

I also must confess that it drives me crazy when I find some cute cheer wear for me or my daughter that I can customize and then discover I have to order a minimum of 20!  UGH!  Well, I finally found the perfect place to order from.   Check Out Customized Girl.  It is so easy to use and it has so many different options and styles to choose from.   It was so easy to design and it walked me through all the steps.  I have not received my order yet but I am so excited that I had to share it with all of you!

 http://www.customizedgirl.com/designs/category/Sports+%2526+Fitness/Cheerleading/showsub&toppage=customcheerleaderapparel

 On another note,  My company is doing very well.  Just Cheer Bows is growing.  You will see ads in American Cheerleader's Coaches Guide and on College Cheer Guide.   Our prices are great and we love what we do.  Come check it out.

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Peace, Love & Cheer,

Lisa

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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent. ~ William Blake

I must confess that I am totally shocked by the cheer world today.  There are approximately 60 kids without a cheer home today.  They say everything happens for a reason and it wasn't really a home to begin with then.  BUT that doesn't make it right.  Everything is rumor and hearsay right now but the truth is that this person pursued athletes in this area aggressively.  This person was messing with others livelihoods.  You don't go and open a cheer gym in another gym's backyard then facebook all their athletes.  Luckily, most of these kids have parents who intervened on their facebooks and blocked this person or drilled into their heads that is was inappropriate for this adult, a stranger to talk to them on facebook.  Did this person care about the kids?! NO!  It was all about money.  60 kids is a great start for a new gym with so many gyms in the surrounding area. 

I am heading into my 7th year in the cheer world as an All-Star Cheer Mom.  Here is my advice to all of you:
1.  Never ever burn a bridge.  I am sure I have burned a few but I am honest and true so in my mind I just tell it like it is.
2.  There is no such thing as a secret in cheerleading.  We all will find out the true story eventually.
3.  Never ever pay tuition up front at a first year cheer gym!
4.  Monitor your child;s facebook daily or twice a day.  Yes, I think it is ok for them to have facebook.  Why? because you can track what they say better than on an instant messenger.
5.  Formspring, just say NO!  Anonymous comments, nothing good ever comes out of that.
6.  You or your child are not entitled to anything, they have to earn it.  It doesn't matter how many years and how the stars are aligned that day but until your athlete earns it they do not deserve a spot. 
7.  Don't ever tell the coaches what team you want your kid on, you might get what you wish for.  They are impartial and they know your kids skills better.  We are their biggest fan but we may not know what is best for them. 
8.  Did I say there is no such thing is a secret?? I don't care if you say don't repeat it....someone will.
9.  Before choosing to leave a cheer gym, ask your child what they want.  They just might have the answer you have been looking for.

So, it looks like tryouts are over here in South Florida.  Top Gun gets their placements tonite.  What a crazy year?!  Kids trying out at 4 and 5 gyms.  I have seen Mom's spend less on college applications then cheer tryout fees.  I have seen parents power playing by taking their kids to another gym to get what they want at their current gym.  And guess what?  Most of them get it.  I had the most drama free year I have had in years, the parents at my daughter's gym seem happy.  The first week of practice for the teams seemed to be amazing.  The 2 teams I saw looked SICK!!!!  No one was calling me saying, I can't believe so and so made that team or that team.  Well, at least not about my daughter's gym.  I heard it about some of the others. It seems to be the most drama filled tryout season as far as the area goes but the drama was the lowest for me.  Why?  It is all who you choose to associate yourself with.  Your create your own destiny especially as a cheer mom. 

Every year, they post the Top 10 Party Schools in Playboy Magazine, I think they need to post in American Cheerleader Magazine Top 10 Drama Free All-Star Gyms!  Can we find 10?  There will always be some drama but it is all in how it is handled.  How does your gym handle drama?  Does that parent get a talking to?  Does that parent even care? 

Wow, I feel better.  I needed to get it all out.  I just can't imagine what those kids and their parents feel like today.  All the other gyms have had their tryouts.  I hope their are gyms that will accept them with open arms and turn this around for them.

Peace, Love & Cheer!

Monday, May 16, 2011

"Things turn out the best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out." -Art Linkletter

If you as a parent are too involved in your  child's sport, it can make your life and your child miserable, kill your enjoymen, their enjoyment and absolutely ruin their athletic performance. Pushy parents can cause choking and other performance problems, and turn your child into a sports dropout statistic. While many over-involved parents mean well and may say that they are doing all this for their kid, the fact of the matter is that they have lost perspective on the sport and their child and are responding to their own needs and feelings. They need parents’ love and support to become successful, it will be almost impossible for them to reach their athletic dreams with parents who are over-involved. A parent’s major role on the “team”, (parent, athlete, coach) is to be unconditionally supportive. That is, to love and support their child regardless of how they perform. Winning parents are their kids “best fans.” They are there for their child no matter what the outcome. 

I must confess I have reached my limit of baseball Dad's.  I will take Cheer Mom's over baseball Dad's any day.   This poor kid is an amazing baseball player and I stood in the dugout and listened to him yell at his kid the whole game.  Every time his son went to bat, he was too busy looking at his Dad and not listening to the coach who happens to be my husband.  What happens, he strikes out every time.  What do they parents do this??   

Now back to cheer,

I must confess sometimes I fall into that trap and I become that parent who is borderline pushing possibly encouraging their kid to get that next skill.   I am not like that with my son in baseball but with my daughter in cheerleading I am.  When 4 coaches say she has a skill and she won't throw it, it is just so frustrating for me.  


It is a new season and I am so excited.  The first practice the kids looked amazing and better than they did half way through last season.


What is up with these cheer mom's and their power playing?  It obviously works because they go check out other gyms and then the gym they were at gives them what they want and they go back.   Does the gym need the revenue or the kid?  A new gym has opened in our area and there seems to be a lot of power playing going on.  The coaches at the gym are amazing and I am sure it will be a successful program but I just hate the games.  

Anyhow,  I am busy with the bows so back to work.  www.justcheerbows.com  New boys and lots on sale!


Peace, Love & Cheer,


Lisa

Monday, April 18, 2011

My philosophy of life is that if we make up our mind what we are going to make of our lives, then work hard toward that goal, we never lose - somehow we win out. - Ronald Reagan

Reflecting back to where I was 1 year ago today in the cheerleading world.  So much has changed for all of us.

I must confess I really never thought I would see us set up like this!  I have a booming business incorporating something my daughter loves with something I love.  My daughter set out to fly this year and she did.  I am in a gym with people I can be myself around.  The gym we go to is run by 2 awesome women with an amazing head coach and a staff of dedicated coaches with so much experience it blows my mind.  We are surrounded by true all-stars! 



 Peace, Love & Just Cheer Bows,

Lisa

Sunday, April 3, 2011

That's what learning is, after all; not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we've changed because of it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other competitions. Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

I must confess it feels pretty damn good when you can prove someone wrong.  I love my daughter's former coach with all my heart but you don't my daughter she would never fly in her gym.  She said she was not built for it.  But last weekend, she saw my daughter fly and hit both days.  She stood backstage with one of her coaches and stared at my daughter as she warmed up......as she hit it in warm-ups.  I am so proud of my 10 yr old.  That is so much pressure.  I would have cracked but she didn't.  Did it make her nervous?  She says no, it just made her want to hit the stunts even more.

I must confess and I feel bad to say this but it is all about confessions, right?  It felt good to hear the other parents from our former gym, say WOW!  she is better than so and so.  It felt good to hear that one parent said to another, I bet she is not to happy she let that kid go.  I think I would have asked my daughter to stay if she had at least once tried to put my daughter up.  I am not one of those crazy cheer moms whose daughter has to fly.  I am just a crazy human being who things everyone should get a chance.

Yeah, my old gym won some jackets and my child's team came in 3rd but they hit their stunts both days.  They had a few touchdowns day 1 but none on day 2.  It was the best they ever performed.  It was the best weekend.  My husband came up with my son and we hung out with some nice parents.  There was barely any drama.  It is sports so, I have to admit there was a little drama but not like at my old gym.

I apologize for not blogging in a long time but I have been pretty busy with Just Cheer Bows, Cheer Competitions and being sick.  I am also wrapping up my last year as a tax preparer. I am done!

I must confess I am rocking the bow world.  www.justcheerbows.com

I have come up with some great designs and I am not selling lots of keychains bows!

Anyhow, I have more to blog...can't wait to share the baseball drama. LOL!

Peace, Love & Just Cheer Bows,

Lisa

Sunday, January 30, 2011

“When a team outgrows individual performance and learns team confidence, excellence becomes a reality.”

I must confess I have been too busy to blog lately.  It's not because I am caught up in some cheerleading drama, I am busy doing something I love along with something my daughter loves.  I am making cheer bows like crazy.  I am loving every minute of it......well almost.  I have a stalker on facebook who stalks me for free bows but everyone wants to feel like a member of the Beatles right?

Today is Florida Matchplay at the South Florida Fair and I must confess that I do not care whether we win or lose.  It is one of the most fun competitions of the year.  Plus, my husband comes and takes notes all day and creates a blog all about it.  No it is not Confessions of an All-Star Cheer Dad!  He does it on facebook and I will copy and paste it in to a blog post on Monday.

I can't believe I am wide awake at 4:40 am when I have to be up at 5:30.  UGH! 



Peace, Love & Cheer BOWS,

Lisa

Thursday, January 6, 2011

An optimist stays up until midnight to see the new year in. A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves.

I must confess that I made not one New Year's resolution this year.  But I am so excited for what this year has to offer.  A new team, a new gym, new teammates and a new business which brings along with it a new attitude.

18 Day until our first competition. 7 More practices!  I get to see my daughter fly this year for the first time.  I am so excited.  Her first half top uniform.  She is growing up so fast.


Just Cheer Bows is doing amazingly well.  The new website has launched and is getting rave reviews.  Check it out!  www,justcheerbows.com



I am sure I will have more to report in 18 Days!

 Peace, Love & Cheer Bows,

Lisa